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Upon returning to New Jersey, and powering on my cell phone, It immediately started to ring. Monster was talking sensible, and asking me to come home so we could talk.
My son-in-law told me not to go home; against my better judgment, I decided to return home. We got to the house, and it was a trashed. Dirty dishes were piled in the sink; there was a hole in the bathroom wall. The bedroom curtains were on the floor. It looked like a tornado had demolished the inside of the home.
I told Monster that we would check into a motel for the evening, and come back the next day, and clean. At the motel around midnight he started questioning me about the cruise, and going through my cell. I was exhausted and not in the mood for his innuendos; rather bull-shit. Monster had an evil look in his eyes. It was pure hatred. I was frightened. My intuition warned me to get away from Monster, and not go back!
When he threw my phone at me, I called my daughter at 3:00 am, and told them to come get me. I left the motel with them with an overnight bag.
I went to their house, and the next day he called and was threatening to all of us. That evening he came to the house and demanded that I either come outside, or let him inside so that he could talk to me. My daughter called the police. One officer spoke to him, and the other came inside to talk to me. I told him the history of Monster; he looked at me and said “divorce him”. Monster was ordered to leave the property, which he did. He didn’t want to be incarcerated.
I stayed with my daughter for 2 nights. I called a friend in Delaware and told her about my predicament. She came to pick me up the same day; I left with the clothes on my back, and several toiletries. I stayed with her for 6 weeks, rented a condo in the same development, and have lived here ever since.
Next week>>>Out of state, but the saga continues.
3:02 PM
Vera Robinson © 2014
Jul 31, 2014 @ 15:15:49
Been there…done that…very true!
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 15:20:05
I’m so blessed to have discovered my voice. I was ashamed of myself, for giving in to such dysfunctions. The feedback I receive makes me stronger. Thank you Morgan. Blessings! 🙂
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 15:35:46
well, i have just got caught up – i could not imagine being in the position you are in – i can say i am in awe of your strength and the ability to break free – my mother never did and it eventually killed her.
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 15:56:57
That saddens me. It was a test of strength. God knows I am a good person, and didn’t belong to suffer anymore. He gave me the courage, at the right time to move on with my life. I surely prayed all the time. As I continue to do each day! Blessings my friend. 🙂
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 16:29:19
I know about this. (((HUGS))) Amy
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 16:30:31
Thank you Amy. 🙂 Hugs to you too! Stay blessed. 🙂
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 19:03:34
I enjoyed that..can’t wait for the continuation
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Jul 31, 2014 @ 19:12:01
I found a voice, and telling my life story living with an addict. It begins with the “Intro” Blessings. 🙂
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Aug 01, 2014 @ 05:12:31
Many women tend to stay in those situations for a variety of reasons Vera and it’s sad. I’ glad that you found the courage to move out and more importantly, let go of him.
Cheers
Laurie.
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Aug 01, 2014 @ 11:14:56
I am too! I have a lot to be thankful for. I am not struggling to pay bills, and I am content. Life is great. 🙂
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Aug 01, 2014 @ 19:43:06
There’s so much to be grateful for in life Vera, and if you’re ahead of the game then it’s not too bad at all.
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Aug 01, 2014 @ 19:55:00
Spoken like a man of wisdom. Very true.
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Aug 03, 2014 @ 05:34:18
Thank you. 🙂
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Aug 05, 2014 @ 08:15:17
You’re welcome.
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Aug 07, 2014 @ 01:28:47
Your voice could go very far in helping others, Ms. Vee. Kudos to you for OWNING your own life. You made the difference for yourself, your family and it will continue to trickle down! (((hugs)))
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Aug 07, 2014 @ 16:57:50
Thank you so much. I pray that others will read my stories, and find the courage to escape a life of destruction. Life is meant to be joyful, and spent with loved ones, not people who bring you down and have addictions we can’t cure. Have a blessed day. 🙂
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:00:09
Life can just break your heart. People you love can be so broken. It’s a sadness.
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:17:01
It is indeed. I was not living my life, trying to live it for Monster.
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:24:49
Too right. We only have one life. We only have this chance to be happy. We deserve to be happy.
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:35:41
Absolutely. We are to be to happy, loved, and live a life of peacefulness. If we have that, we can spread the the love to others. Be blessed Brenda. Heal well. Life is too short !
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:46:44
I don’t think about all that much these days, but I wanted you to know you are not alone. A lot of us have monsters in our past. That’s the only good thing about them, that they are in the past. I’m brushing my hands of it, and I feel lighter already. 🙂
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:49:57
Amen!!! I’m healing and finding myself stronger in ways I never thought I would.
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Aug 16, 2014 @ 23:55:50
You’re an inspiration. I want to paint. I haven’t wanted to paint in weeks. I might paint to celebrate how happy you’ve made me feel. I remember I am free. 🙂
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:01:44
Brenda. Paint on girlfriend. You have inspired me too. Your visits, comments, and communication had helped me gained trust, and understanding. We do not stand alone in our struggles. We are not powerless! We are powerful!
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:05:02
That’s right, my friend. We rock!! I’m going to dedicate a post to you. 🙂
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:07:58
You are awesome. Make me cry. I need it! Tears of joy, rather than sadness and despair. Paint my friend. Let the freedom of your freedom be expressed.
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:12:24
That is just what I need to do. An abstract, perhaps. They can be so freeing. 🙂 My post is up, impetuously, so I hope it’s not a middle-of-the-night mistake, but I was touched by our chat. You make my heart sing. You have the divine in you. Blessings, Brenda
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:16:51
I am deeply touched Brenda. Sing until you a can’t any longer. Dance until your feet swell, and you are prancing in air! LOL.
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:19:15
That’s the magic, baby! 🙂
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:21:59
The poem and photo is beautiful. I wasn’t able to like or comment from my tablet. Been having problems since the recent WP update. I will be on my laptop tomorrow after church. Thank you so much.
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:24:17
No worries, I didn’t put it up for praise, but for joy. 🙂
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 00:33:03
Thank you. Going to bed and going to have peaceful dreams. I hope you do too. Church tomorrow family and friends day. I will pray for world peace and love!
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 09:25:18
My parents are visiting today, and I will be busy all day. I will be happy and joyful though. I hope you have a great one!
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 19:28:39
Enjoy the time with your parents. My day was amazing. It was friends and family day at church. The word was uplifting and moving. God bless you. 🙂
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 20:26:32
My day was wonderful, I really enjoyed seeing my parents. I’m so grateful they are still in good health and traveling. Glad you had a great day, too. Blessings, Brenda
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Aug 17, 2014 @ 16:56:37